This piece is beautiful and a must read for anyone who thinks “love” is something you FEEL.
I didn’t love my wife when I married her
This line reminded me of something I did when my girls were growing up.
“Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. A country of people trying to live a Disney movie.”
We were watching a Muppet movie, the one where Kermit and Miss Piggy get married. They started singing this sappy song, “He’ll make me happy … she’ll make me happy”, and I just went ballistic. Hit the Most Important Parenting Tool Ever (the pause button) and went on a tear about … well, everything that guy said. We’d heard it at Engaged Encounter and it rung so true, probably because we’d both been blessed with parents who believed in real love. Our parents’ marriages were short on gush and long on commitment. It was something we both wanted in our own marriage, so we listened and learned.
There’s only one thing I don’t care for in this piece and that is that he quotes the “one in two marriages end in divorce” statistic. That’s very deceptive. Here’s the real story: