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Democrats Are Gaslighting America

Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic used to gain power.

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The following article by Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D. was published in Psychology Today on Jan 22, 2017.

Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders. It is done slowly, so the victim doesn’t realize how much they’ve been brainwashed. For example, in the movie Gaslight (1944), a man manipulates his wife to the point where she thinks she is losing her mind.

In my book Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People – and Break Free, I detail how gaslighters typically use the following techniques:

They tell blatant lies.

You know it’s an outright lie. Yet they are telling you this lie with a straight face. Why are they so blatant? Because they’re setting up a precedent. Once they tell you a huge lie, you’re not sure if anything they say is true. Keeping you unsteady and off-kilter is the goal.

They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof.

You know they said they would do something; you know you heard it. But they out and out deny it. It makes you start questioning your reality—maybe they never said that thing. And the more they do this, the more you question your reality and start accepting theirs.

They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.

They know how important your kids are to you, and they know how important your identity is to you. So those may be one of the first things they attack. If you have kids, they tell you that you should not have had those children. They will tell you’d be a worthy person if only you didn’t have a long list of negative traits. They attack the foundation of your being.

They wear you down over time.

This is one of the insidious things about gaslighting—it is done gradually, over time. A lie here, a lie there, a snide comment every so often…and then it starts ramping up. Even the brightest, most self-aware people can be sucked into gaslighting—it is that effective. It’s the “frog in the frying pan” analogy: The heat is turned up slowly, so the frog never realizes what’s happening to it.

Their actions do not match their words.

When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue.

They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you.

This person or entity that is cutting you down, telling you that you don’t have value, is now praising you for something you did. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, “Well maybe they aren’t so bad.” Yes, they are. This is a calculated attempt to keep you off-kilter—and again, to question your reality. Also look at what you were praised for; it is probably something that served the gaslighter.

They know confusion weakens people.

Gaslighters know that people like having a sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything. And humans’ natural tendency is to look to the person or entity that will help you feel more stable—and that happens to be the gaslighter.

They project.

They are a drug user or a cheater, yet they are constantly accusing you of that. This is done so often that you start trying to defend yourself, and are distracted from the gaslighter’s own behavior.

They try to align people against you.

Gaslighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what—and they use these people against you. They will make comments such as, “This person knows that you’re not right,” or “This person knows you’re useless too.” Keep in mind it does not mean that these people actually said these things. A gaslighter is a constant liar. When the gaslighter uses this tactic it makes you feel like you don’t know who to trust or turn to—and that leads you right back to the gaslighter. And that’s exactly what they want: Isolation gives them more control.

They tell you or others that you are crazy.

This is one of the most effective tools of the gaslighter, because it’s dismissive. The gaslighter knows if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them the gaslighter is abusive or out-of-control. It’s a master technique.

They tell you everyone else is a liar.

By telling you that everyone else (your family, the media) is a liar, it again makes you question your reality. You’ve never known someone with the audacity to do this, so they must be telling the truth, right? No. It’s a manipulation technique. It makes people turn to the gaslighter for the “correct” information—which isn’t correct information at all.

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Click Bait

Not precisely FAKE NEWS, but definitely something to toss into the circular file.

The New York Post published this factual headline with the graphic and a lede saying, “This year could end with a bang. Scientists recently spotted an asteroid on a direct collision course to Earth — projected to hit a day before the presidential elections in November.”

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Kinda suggests it’s an “OMG WE’RE ALL GONNA DIE” crisis coming, right?!

Except, I couldn’t find anything at all about this asteroid at NASA’s asteroid watch site.

Fortunately, the Fox News version wasn’t so hysteria-making.

AND it included a link, which helped my research immense

What the NY Post did NOT say is that this asteroid (designated 2018VP1) is small by asteroid standards.

Yes, at 6.5 feet, it does resemble a small car.

An asteroid the size of an SUV whizzed past us just last week … and nobody cared.

At roughly 10 to 20 feet across, asteroid 2020QG is very small by asteroid standards.”

The NY Post article also does not say that 2018VP1 has a 99.59% chance of missing Earth.

And even if it does hit us, it is so small, it will just burn up in the atmosphere.

NASA wasn’t at all concerned about 2020QG, the bigger one that made a very close pass last week.

If it had actually been on an impact trajectory, it would likely have become a fireball as it broke up in Earth’s atmosphere, which happens several times a year.

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Bits & Bytes

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TRUMP ECONOMY: Housing – “The housing market is well past the recovery phase,” said NAR chief economist Lawrence Yun.

Sales of existing homes have surpassed pre-pandemic rates. The median sale price of existing homes has also gone up substantially.

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CONGRESS: Relief billSen. Sheldon Whitehouse, a Rhode Island Democrat, wants to impose emissions requirements on airlines in exchange for additional pandemic relief.

2020_08 23 Dems pro life

2020: No room in the “big tent”For the first time since 2000, Democrats for Life was not permitted to caucus as an official part of the Democratic National Convention.

The group held its own virtual convention outside the DNC site. The president said, “Biden’s giving us no reason to vote for him.”

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